Thanks for sharing, I guess grief is never "over" so you have to allow yourself whatever you need each day. I went to a funeral yesterday of the husband of a long time acquaintance, and the final song was Ribbon in the Sky by Stevie Wonder. I love that song (and Stevie) anyway, but it has been in my head ever since whilst I think of her and the kids - music is such a tonic during tough times.
Dearest Julia, You're doing all the right things! Trying to soldier on, all the time, 'being tough' as if you're not crying inside, will always come back to bite you.
You have had an indescribable sudden loss of a beloved husband, and your grief is profound. But it's also OK to do the ordinary things. To smile, laugh and find enjoyment, even when grief sits on your shoulder and at times gnaws at your very core.
I love your playlist idea. Keep adding to it. When my mother died suddenly, I put 'Unforgettable' at the top of my list, because she was always singing it. But old as the song is, I love the lyrics and soothing melody. For Tim, it was the old Motown song I associated with him, 'How Sweet it is To Be Loved by You.' And so it goes ...
If you ever feel like a wander in the Parliament Hills Farmers Market one Saturday, give me a call.
Absolutely not sure what to write...but this box seems to want me to! Is grief by definition unbearable? Or does it feel like it is but we bear it anyway? I have only ever 'met' you once Julia (weirdly at a fireside session a grief at work) but I feel for you and hope you have many load bearing supports you can draw on. PS I think I might add Simply Red's Holding back the years.
Thanks for sharing, I guess grief is never "over" so you have to allow yourself whatever you need each day. I went to a funeral yesterday of the husband of a long time acquaintance, and the final song was Ribbon in the Sky by Stevie Wonder. I love that song (and Stevie) anyway, but it has been in my head ever since whilst I think of her and the kids - music is such a tonic during tough times.
Dearest Julia, You're doing all the right things! Trying to soldier on, all the time, 'being tough' as if you're not crying inside, will always come back to bite you.
You have had an indescribable sudden loss of a beloved husband, and your grief is profound. But it's also OK to do the ordinary things. To smile, laugh and find enjoyment, even when grief sits on your shoulder and at times gnaws at your very core.
I love your playlist idea. Keep adding to it. When my mother died suddenly, I put 'Unforgettable' at the top of my list, because she was always singing it. But old as the song is, I love the lyrics and soothing melody. For Tim, it was the old Motown song I associated with him, 'How Sweet it is To Be Loved by You.' And so it goes ...
If you ever feel like a wander in the Parliament Hills Farmers Market one Saturday, give me a call.
BTW, I LOVE the pinks!
Lots of love
Susan xx
Absolutely not sure what to write...but this box seems to want me to! Is grief by definition unbearable? Or does it feel like it is but we bear it anyway? I have only ever 'met' you once Julia (weirdly at a fireside session a grief at work) but I feel for you and hope you have many load bearing supports you can draw on. PS I think I might add Simply Red's Holding back the years.